I was born with chronic condition: complaining.
I can’t remember not EVER being one to not complain, even if it was under my breath. I play by the rules. I believe in fairness. I will call you out on foul play and I hate being done wrong. And I have always felt justified.
But I never did anything about it…just complained.
Years ago, as I was, literally, crying so hard I couldn’t breathe, I remember only having enough strength to grab my phone to text a friend and get a few words out. Their response: “You’ve been going through the same thing for years. I support you in whatever you choose to do. But you have to make a decision. Step up or stop talking about it.”
Forgive my language for a second but… Damn. It was a text I will never forget. It was the only thing I could think to say. And it was what I needed to hear. I had to make a decision right then and there, like I had done so many times, with my weight, with my marriage, with my children, with my career: be brave, move in faith, be willing to walk into the unknown or be quiet and accept the ramifications of doing the same thing with the same results. Period.
I will not lie to you. I have kept quiet on some things for far too long. And I hurt and have stunted my growth because of them. I have been EXTREMELY brave on some things and have lost a lot because of it. What I have gained in all of it is a new sense of what I want in my life as I get closer to 40. I am so much stronger than I think, can do more with less, can push harder, can dreamer bigger and am happier than I once believed. It’s perspective and making the decision to open your mouth and move your feet or shutting up, sitting down and just taking what you get. Just get out of the way of those of us who aren’t o.k. with that.
You’re tired of being overweight? Have you done as much to work on it as you’ve talked (translation: complained) about it? That relationship? Are you comfortable or thriving? Moving towards resolution or just moving your lips? The job? Satisfied with just getting a nice paycheck but blasting your boss and the structure of the business every chance you get instead of actively working towards change or looking to find another place to work?
Complaining does something to your spirit. It has to mine. I’ve felt heavy and trapped, lethargic and helpless and I am NONE of those things.
I need to remember that. I bet you are too. But choosing to walk in it is our choice. And if you choose not to then shhhhh. No need to add more noise to the negativity.
And it’s time I get better about doing my part.
Are you a complainer? Is it time to check your condition?