About six weeks ago, I wrote this blog post about women and fear of the weight room and I promised a part two. I didn’t wait six weeks because I didn’t have anything to say. I waited six weeks because….
….I needed to deal with my own fear.
I AM a personal trainer. I have been one for almost nine years. I know how to use the machines. I know how to use kettlebells, a bosu, a TRX and all of that other stuff. And I know how to keep myself from getting hurt. But my fear was about….
I didn’t want people to know I “couldn’t” do something or the weight was “too” heavy. And, in the past six weeks, I have been dealing with one of the points I made in the first post: fear of looking stupid.
I lift heavy weight. But I do some interesting, non-conventional stuff. And I HATE people looking at me. I HATE it when a guy feels like he needs to correct me because I am a women on the “guy side” of the gym. I don’t want to hear your problems, opinions, or small talk.
So maybe I have anxiety.
And maybe that’s what YOU have.
When you are just starting out, there CAN be legitimate fear. But most of it goes back to being afraid of looking stupid. But if you’re in there trying to CHANGE YOUR LIFE, who cares? I’m sure I looked pretty stupid drinking ice cold green juice yesterday when it was 26 degrees. 🙂
Really get behind the real issue. Because whatever it is, fear, intimidation or anxiety, there is something great waiting for you on the other side. Weight training is one of the most fantastic things I have ever done for myself and I feel so much better now that I have gotten back on a regular schedule. I feel more confident, which combats the anxiety. I feel stronger, which combats the feeling of weakness when I believe I “can’t handle” a certain machine. And I feel more SORE because when I am in my zone and not worrying about what’s going on around me, I work harder.
Be willing to bite the bullet, whether that means hiring a trainer, going to classes that teach form, working out with a friend who has more experience than you initially so you can build the confidence to get in there and go for yours when there is no one there to tell you what to do. Super powers come in the work not in the after glow. 🙂
Do you feel like you are more afraid or just anxious about the weight room? Who can you reach out to that will help you take another step towards going onto the “Big Boys Side?”