Because, “weight” and “up” in the same sentence will get you cut around these parts. Who in the world wants to see their weight go UP? That’s insane! And ESPECIALLY coming from a woman who makes a living influencing women EVERYWHERE to get their weight down, physically and emotionally, to benefit their health and their well-being. I am the same hemp protein drinking, three times a week running, eight hours a night sleeping, emotional baggage surrendering holistic homegirl who gets on Blog Talk Radio EVERY week and tells you to STOP the madness and get behind the weight “problem. So have I went insane?
No. It’s just most of us are one track minded.
Because the word “weight” has nothing to do with numbers on the scale. (Did somebody think I was sending them to the buffet? *smile*) However, when we are completely wrapped up in our tunnel vision, everything relates to that ONE thing. And life is so much bigger. It’s bigger than the number on the scale, the size of your jeans or the portion of your chicken breasts and peanut butter. It’s bigger than the hours of cardio you’ve logged in this week and the amount of calories you burned while doing it. It’s bigger than not falling prey to your weaknesses. This is about your STRENGTH. This is about “bulking up” in the right places to protect you from what has turned out to be your biggest enemy….
Have you looked in the mirror today? Honestly, what is the FIRST thing you said? Unless you are like my daughter (because she has no problem telling herself how amazing she is….), chances are you may have focused on what was wrong. Were your eyes puffy? Your hair messed up? The cellulite in your things showing no mercy? Did you even have a mirror to look in? (Because some of us avoid those, you know?) And what kind of promise did you make? My promise to myself was to ALWAYS do more abs and stop drinking so much juice. And, at the end of the day, when I looked the same and remembered that I didn’t necessarily keep my promises, I went at it again. I swore if I had more “will power”, I could have abs like that girl who was showing off on Facebook and then I wouldn’t feel so miserable. The truth is, I’d probably feel just as bad. It just wouldn’t be my abs. It would probably be my triceps.
Our image of self has nothing to do with will power. I am going to go out on a limb and say what we consider our failures have nothing to do with will power either. I think we don’t allow ourselves enough grace or breathing room to make a mistake or to redraw the plan and the minute we are not perfect, we bring in the heavy artillery and put ourselves in front of a firing squad. And WE are the ones pulling the trigger. Repetitively.
Getting your weight up has to do with standing up to the drill sergeant inside of you. You have to build up enough strength to take down the “Negative Nancy” living inside of you. And, depending on how long she has been up in there and how much authority you have given her will determine how much muscle you will need to take her out. Here’s how to get started:
1.) Decide you can live without her and stick with your decision. There is no need to start a fight and kick her out when you are going to just invite her back.
2.) Discover her cryptonite and have no mercy. If she doesn’t like it when you do Zumba because you feel too good when you do it, BLAST HER OUT. If she tries to talk you out of making that workout date with your friend, make TWO.
3.) Don’t engage with her relatives, facebook friends or co-workers. Anyone who keeps you in relationship with her, separate.
4.) Stop blaming her for everything that has went wrong and WOMAN UP. Take responsibility for your choices. Decide what you want and go after it, without apologies or excuses.
It is time.