I used to think I only had a problem with bright lights in the morning because, well, I have headaches and I am just NOT a morning person. I very much dislike rolling out of bed when it is cold (well, even when it’s warm), stumbling into the bathroom to have all of my imperfections volumized by the unforgiving beam of something I don’t even appreciate. My hair is all over the place. There is stuff in my eye and they might be puffy. There may be stuff on my face my face. Sometimes my pajamas are all crooked and look like I have been in a fight. And I am supposed to say “GOOD morning?”
Perhaps what I am supposed to say is, “this is it, Tasha” and work with what I see instead of hurriedly trying to turn off the lights, cover up what I once considered “imperfections” or get out of the mirror. No matter where I go, what kind of lip gloss I use, what type of lighting I have in my bathroom, my issues are my issues and running away or playing pretend NEVER solved any of them. And THAT, my friends, is how I ended up in the weight loss game.
If you have read my newsletter,listened to one of my radio shows or have been to one of my live workshops, then you know I teach what are called the F.I.E.R.C.E. principles; today’s principles being get all up in your personal space or merely face the mirror. While it seems somewhat “illogical” in theory that we could hide from ourselves, I would like to be the first one to admit that I spent years trying to do it and I know others who have done the same and are still doing it. None of us mastered it.
Facing the mirror means stepping into what is YOU and accepting it whatever IT is. Again, I will be the first one to admit that there was some denial, kicking, screaming and cursing about who I had become while my back was turned away from the mirror. And, on the unconscious side of things, I was kicking my parents, my sister, my ex-husband, the people who teased me as a kid, my boss, the my fourth grade teacher. I was fighting against every piece of hurt or perceived hurt I had experienced. On the conscious side, I walked into my hurt and stopped fighting. I took responsibility for where my behavior had brought me. I am, IN NO WAY, saying that everything in my life has been fair and I have always been treated justly. What I am saying is that when I was facing that scale at 200 plus pounds, I had to make a decision as to HOW LONG I was going to hold someone accountable for all of those drinks I was throwing back, the food I was consuming without a second thought, the exercise I wasn’t doing and the pity parties I was having on a DAILY basis while everyone was going about their day. MY life was in crisis and I had to take responsibility. I had to get in my OWN face and say, “So, what are you going to do?”
It is a matter of facing reality.
What is your truth? You cannot move forward until you look into your own eyes, imperfections and all, under the high beams of reality and say, “this is where I am.” Don’t sugar coat it. Don’t try to fix it. Block out what you think others might say if they saw you in this moment. It’s not about them. It’s about you.
And when you finally see yourself…..I mean, REALLY see yourself…….realizing that you’ll never be “perfect” but you aren’t where you want to be, what are you going to do about it?
If you want to get this weight off and get it off PERMANENTLY, there is work to do.